Published in the July 2008 BETTER TIMES, a monthly newsletter for AA Members in The Greater Toronto Area.
Myth 1: 90 meetings in 90 days. Not in our Big Book. Therefore not something the founders of our program suggested as part of the program of recovery. It may help some people but it is misleading, in that it suggests this action will help a still-suffering alcoholic recover and takes the focus off the 12 Steps. I have witnessed hundreds of members recover in 7 days or less by taking the Steps. Many have never gone to a single AA meeting, let alone 90.
Myth 2: Get a Sponsor. I have seen many recover by following the suggestions in the Big Book and none of them ever had a sponsor. Sponsorship as it is practiced today creates a human dependence, which is entirely opposed to creating a dependence on a God of our own understanding.
Myth 3: Join a Group. A group is not a Fellowship. A Fellowship venerates, cherishes and honours the newcomer. It does not celebrate those who have already achieved sobriety. A true Fellowship does not care for chips/medallions to honour recovery.
Myth 4: Don’t date in the 1st year of recovery. What nonsense! This is not a suggestion in our Big Book; in fact, it says the opposite. “Once a man has recovered, he can come and go as he pleases as long as his motives are good”. This myth has found its way into AA via treatment centres. Not part of the program.
Myth 5: Don’t work with others until you have 5 years or more. Nonsense. The Big Book says “unless a man enlarges his spiritual life through self-sacrifice and constructive work for another alcoholic, he cannot survive the trials ahead. If he does not do this work, he will surely drink again.” The Big Book tells us to work with others RIGHT AWAY.
…There are MANY MORE MYTHS I CAN SHARE with you if you have an open-mind and don’t mind the truth, as opposed to most of the myths I read in the Better Times. Perhaps the name should be changed to “Better Myths” or maybe “Deceitful Times.” If you read this, have even 1 ounce of integrity left in your soul, I challenge you to publish a further article about all the myths I have found that are not intended to be in our program. However, if you have no integrity left in your soul, then I welcome you to go to 90 meetings in 90 days and try to find some.
All the best — Cora G.
I am in my third rodeo with 6 years 1st sobriety date was Halloween 1987. 90 in 90 was suggested in the treatment center. why? in hopes that it would create a healthy habit. I didn’t believe everything AA said. I have found AA 1st 100 did not all recover because they all did not stay sober. Rarely does not mean never.
4 years ago I told my sponsor that I had long ago stopped believing in a god. And after 5 cerebral aniograms, a heart that’s not doing well, and many diseases, I finally found peace. yes I have days that are up and days that are down. but my up days are good and my down days are good.
I have found many in AA that don’t believe in god. I still go to traditional AA because my sponsor suggested it.
if you are struggling with the concept of god find a Secular AA group and see if it helps. Concept means idea, and for many god was simply an idea.
Why are so many recovering alcoholics so rigid and dangerously narrow minded about AA and how to get sober and have a good life. I believe AA is about using a 12 step programme and other tools to stay sober and help other alcoholics stay sober. In my experience AA is not a rigid, narrow, critical regime that is intolerant and inflexible.
My wife and I benefitted hugely from doing 90 in 90 meetings and we have 21 very happy years of sobriety each. If I had not gone to seven or eight meetings a week for the first few years of my recovery I would not be 21 years sober today. In meetings I found the identification, example, support and love of a group of like minded alcoholics vital. Through AA meetings I found my sense of humour and of laughter again. In meetings I learnt about a higher power, doing the steps, doing service, sponsorship, love, respect, and tolerance and staying sober a day at a time. I also learned about friendship, open mindedness and being part of a wonderful fellowship. Does it matter that it is not mentioned in the Big Book, are we that regimental, fundamental and narrow minded?
Has nobody seen “We know only a little.” How dangerous, irresponsible and arrogant to criticize 90 in 90, getting a sponsor, Joining a group,. Who cares if it is mentioned in the Big Book or not. The Big Book is only a reference book and not a Bible. I live by the 12 step programme and I use whatever tools and help that are available to me. My good friend and Sponsor once said to me, “You can add whatever you like to the AA programme as long as you take nothing away from it.” Its not about being rigid, literal and inflexible. Followers of the Big Book as being sober, positive, loving, spiritual members of a fellowship and helping other alcoholics do the same in whatever way works for them. Live and Let Live.
WE REALIZE WE KNOW VERY LITTLE – has been twisted by many AA’s in the fellowship to make AA program fit THIER OWN Narrative – AND TAKE IT OUT OF CONTEXT -what the founders were saying is this – We( The 1ST 100 ) have found a spiritual program of action a path to GOD of your understanding once you connect to him at that point your connection to him will dictate what you need to do – its tell us HOW THEY DID THAT – they say SEE TO IT YOUR OWN HOUSE is in order first ask HIM -not your sponsor , or group or any outside source – although him may direct you to seek help by way of Psychiatrist , counselor etc.. THEY ARE NOT THE GO TO PERSON – HIGHER POWER OUR GOD IS — remember we entered a region from which there is no return through human aid – the 11th step say s to improve our connection to him – there are clear cut directions of just how to do this – our sucess rate proves my point by it’s decline that started in the mid 70’s down to 5 % world wide – these Myths are absolutely backed in truth – not opinions they are not RIGID – it’s the Alcoholic that’s rigid stubborn refuses to submit to Gods laws or any Authority – when Bill wrote the 12 steps he said this KNOWING the alcoholics ability to rationalize we needed to make something AIR TIGHT we couldn’t let the reader wiggle out anywhere , further on for the distant readers sake , we would need to show EXACTLY HOW THE PROGRAM SHOULD BE WORKED ! that sounds pretty rigid to me – because only way we could ever submit to it is by way OF TOTAL EXHAUSTION – when we become exhausted it then become easy to follow willingly a rigid path – but God does not make terms to difficult when we earnestly seek him
there is absolutely no reliable data to support the decline in the so-called success rate. it does not exist and referring to it detracts from the power of your argument it does not add anything. all the capital letter words also detracts. all I can do for another alcoholic is make suggestions based on my experience, for what it’s worth and nothing more. I have been sober for 41 years and I find that meetings and reading the Grapevine have been the rocks of my recovery program.
Meeting attendance has undeniably worked for some. I attended several meetings a week in my first year. I have seen others fail when attending just as many meetings. I have personally witnessed that meeting makers do not make it is not a true statement. The quality of the meetings have a lot to do with it. Meetings that are an extension of the group therapy of treatment centers, where we share our problems like the Hollywood idea of AA, are ineffective no matter how many you attend. Meeting that focus on the solution are very educational and 90 in 90 could provide a crash course on how to work steps. At least, that way a person could hardly say they tried AA and it didn’t work because they will know they didn’t try AA. They just attended some meetings.
I have heard many pushback to any change in the way they found AA. It worked for them. Articles such as this one are concerned with the huge decline in AA’s success rate and when people chime in who want to keep it the way they found it, it is the 5-10% who made it insisting that AA doesn’t need fixing, And if it stays the same, it is destined to remain at 5-10% at best.
Thanks for this list Cora!
Bravo and ditto.
Your post was clear, TRUTHFUL, and courageous.
Many thanks,
chris
The Truth is only the Truth if it is true for all people. Otherwise it is a theory or an opinion.
All I can say is thankfully we now have secular AA, LifeRing , Dharma recovery and Smart Recovery. The BB written by a man with less than 5 years sober, it is outdated and poorly edited. Almost 400 million people in the USA and AA only has 1.3 million members.
… and the efficacy of AA has fallen dramatically (sadly) as the years go by. there are many opinions about recovery. But there is only one set of (beautiful) instructions.
Just remember, as my friend Mat H. in Macon, GA used to say” You must work the STEPS…….NOT the Promises.”
An interesting article. I feel, as a recovered alcoholic, that it is my job to explain to the newcomer what AA “is” and “isn’t” There are two columns that hold up AA, right? 1)The Fellowship (coffee, “90 in 90”, pamphlets, “keep coming back”, pizza after the meeting, cake and cookies, ANYTHING outside the program of recovery.) 2) The program of recovery as directed in the text book. If friendships and contacts emerge from Fellowship activities, that is fantastic! BUT The Fellowship’s main job is to support all newcomers as they what? Take the steps and RECOVER, as taught by another recovered alcoholic, through the steps as printed in the text book.
That’s it—That’s all.
Jim P. Thank you for your comment. I was grateful to see a current comment. I was dumped by sponsor today because I never call her and don’t “do” as much. I can respect that. As I fight the knee-jerk response to immediately call her back and say “I’ll go to as many meetings as you want, call you every week, and do as much service work as you” I found this page instead.
I always felt sponsoring was overwhelming and so I never could keep up. But I can sponsor through the big book in the way outlined on this site. That is what I love. Not a checklist of things that I must do in order to move on to a next step.
I’m not as dependent as I was 9.5 years ago. I can seek a God consciousness without depending on a sponsor for every little thing. God forbid I say something like this in a meeting because it will sound like an excuse and there is a certain sense of shame that comes with it. I know that people are just afraid for me but I’m looking for a different, non-fear based big-book program of LIVING.
Nobody has EVER…EVER…gotten sober…and remained sober by starting out with a list of things they are not willing to do.
I’ve always found the worship of time to be troublesome. At many recent meetings I’ve heard announcements that such and such meeting needs support and that it’s one of the oldest meetings in the area. What they don’t mention is those particular meetings had twenty plus year bullies and tyrants who drove away all of the young people because they were resistant to minor changes to the meeting format, like it’s some sacred fuckin’ Ark of the Covenant, and would whine and put down everyone until they got their own way again. They also would hit on girls barely out of their teens, driving them away which in turn drove away the young guys. Now they come hat in hand begging to be saved from problems of their own making (so much for taking responsibility for your own actions, huh?).
There were many nicer people of long term dryness, but they sat back and let the idiots have run of the show and would chastise newcomers for complaining, “he’s been sober for 25 years, so you should listen and accept him as he is” but the old coot never has too accept anything or anyone. I guess that’s where my post is heading, the abuse of spiritual principles like acceptance, forgiveness, tolerance and open mindedness. As they preach this, they turn a blind eye to the prick who continues to violate the personal boundaries and safety of newer members all in the supposed practice of said principles. As Edmund Burke once wrote “The only thing necessary for the triumph of evil is for good men to do nothing” and AA is dying because supposedly good men/women are standing by and doing nothing to time tyrants.
hi Backup!
That’s exactly what’s going on in the group that i’ve attended in Poland.
There’s just few older guys running the show, taking advantage of any newcomer. At fisrt they appear as calm, loving, caring OGs, so after first few meetings you trust them. Then BANG!
They push you to do things that’s not in BB or not even close to 12 steps, like forcing you to give a phone number to anyone from the group who asks for it. Or calling you at 3am and if you don’t pick up the phone that means you don’t want to get sober. When I refused to give a phone number to someone saying I need some time to get to know each other on neutral ground like AA meetings I was told that I’m not ready to get sober, or I rationalize it because “their experience proved that it works…” I remember someone who has been married with kids and at some point he also was dating up to 5 womens at a time! Another one was criticizing me for living in a cheap apartment when I was trying to save money, and yet that person 20 years sober was in a debt spiral and asking newcomers for money. They were constantly repeating at meetings that “Joining AA Is Like Joining The Mafia. Anywhere We Go In The World We Have Family, And If We Leave We Die”. People were afraid to leave becuse of that and if anyone managed to get out of it, they were simply following you or sending their sponsee to follow you at places. It was a massive brain wash and psychomanipulation. My personal view is that they replaced one insanity(alcohol) with another. Thank God I’m no longer having to deal with them:)
in my experience, recovery comes from doing the work, not from reading the instructions, but from following them! most of us are not avid readers. Others have read enough self-help books to fill a library! the basic instructions are set forth in the big book. It’s not rocket science to follow them, if I have the direction of someone who has done the work. Recovery is guaranteed if you work the steps and help others to do so. The ” We know only a little” refers to spiritual progress and searching which has to go on for a lifetime; it certainly was not meant to suggest that all of the essential directions for recovery are not in the big book.
When the Big Book was written A.A. was only about 4 years old and there were only about 100 members who had gotten sober and stayed sober – most not for the full 4 years however. On top of that the BB was written based primarily on the experiences of a fairly small subset of those 100 people plus a lot of input from non-alcoholic friends of the fellowship. They knew from the get go that the book would need to supplemented as time went on. (“He will show you how to create the fellowship you crave…We know only a little. God will constantly disclose more to you and to us….
Alcoholics Anonymous will be glad to hear from you. Address P.O. Box 459
Grand Central Station, New York, NY 10163” – pg 164 BB). Since the BB was written a lot has changed. Go to AA.ORG and look at all the conference approved literature. At a minimum every alcoholic should read Living Sober and the Twelve and Twelve, and would benefit greatly by reading all the rest of the literature as well as attending a variety of literature meetings on a regular basis. A lot that’s been written in the prior comments comes from a character defect of the writers who are consumed with grandiosity and failure to give up control to the God of their understanding. These people MUST read “How it Works” up until the start of the instructions for step 4 – OVER AND OVER – and understand it and internalize it. If they don’t they risk not having a secure and serene recovery.
May I thank everyone who left a reply? I learned a lot!
Seems to me that the author of this “Myths of A.A.” could have spent all those hours instead by helping other alcoholics achieve sobriety.
he actually did because a lot of people play to or work the fellowship vs the program. and when a sponsor or group falls so has so many. because their faith is in a human entity and not a higher power.
I have seen people relapse who do not do the steps right away. People are often told to wait one year before doing them in some cases. One of my friends did not complete the program as far as I know and “decided” to pick up a drink after fifteen months and busted; now he is back in detox and not doing the program.
The steps lead to a spiritual awakening that is vital to ensuring we recover from the hopeless state of mind and body that was described by Dr Silkworth in the AA text the “big book”.
90 meetings in 90 days was not in the big book. However green recruits will need support to get through their early days in sobriety. Look at the AA logo, the three sided triangle of Service, Unity and Recovery. To have recovery we need unity and to keep AA alive we need to be of service to AA and spread the AA message to other alcoholics who still suffer. An AA meeting is a great way to help people recover.
In the early days of AA, newcomers were greeted at meetings and assigned a supporter who helped them through the steps. The concept of one alcoholic working with another was mentioned in the AA text. In order to ensure he did not bust Bill W worked with Dr Bob and helped him to become sober.
We need to get newcomers to undertake the steps as soon as possible, and to do the steps as they are outlined in the AA text. Get rid of non AA ideas that come from rehabs and other pyschobabble crap and get back to the original format of AA.
Meetings + Program = Recovery.
I guess once again I have set the cat among the pigeons.
regards Tim
My first sponsor was like that. I had to call him everyday,and he usually wouldn’t answer. IF I said anything about this, he would tell me I needed to learn patience. Really? You told me to call you everyday. I too got the step one thing when I requested help with step work. Really? I knew in my soul that I was powerless, that my life was unmanageable before I came in, and leaving me to twist is helping me with that how? The guy I have now worked me through the steps in a little over a month, thoroughly. He says I need to wait at least a year before I get a sponsee, but I’ll let God handle that one. When It is time for me to have a sponsee, God will send him to me.
To Cora:
After years in and out, making meetings, listening to drunkologs and waiting for a miracle …one day at a time, I called this new sponsor, told her, “I was going crazy listening to this and was ready to get into the steps”. She told me we were on Step One, really? because for the last month we’ve been reading 3 pages of the Big Book a week and are at the first page of the preface to the 4th edition. If this women would have simply taken me through the steps, I would be in the process of spiritual recovery and awakening, instead she wanted to have phone calls everyday from a sick person to discuss how this sick person (me) felt each day. Playing junior therapist rather then AA sponsor. I don’t want to be anyone’s sponsor for ever! It seems a lot of sponsors take chances on people’s lives, keeping them in a state of limbo, rather then work on the steps and begin a path to wellness because their sick ego needs lost Little ducklings to follow them around.
Just be honest with yourself, do you have a connection to the 12 steps and the big book (I.e. something to offer)? Can you be honest with the women who approach you about what and how you’re willing to offer help? If not, there are many other types of service. Sponsees don’t benefit or apperciate being in stagnant relationships or in emotional bond age either.
Dear admin,
I apologise for my rant. I totally agree that treating your sponsor as your higher power is not healthy and you will definitely not get well by doing so. But if your sponsor is working a diligent programme, they have a conscious contact with god and they are deeply entrenched in service-unity-recovery, then the newcomer better be taking daily advice from that person until they are in a similar position themselves, or they run the risk of self sufficiency and ultimately relapse. My advice to the newcomer will always be “get a sponsor and work the steps”.
Most people, by the time they get to the rooms are so smashed to pieces that there is little or no chance of them recovering by themselves even with a big book. History shows us that you need someone to guide you through the steps! Rowland Hazard needed the oxford group as did Ebby Thacher. Bill W needed Ebby, Dr Bob needed Bill W, Clarence Snyder needed Dr Bob. And we all know about the 93% success rate that Clarence had in Cleveland!! To say you don’t need a sponsor is ridiculous.
Get a sponsor, work the steps, get a higher power and then go and give that away to someone who hasn’t yet found it.
Get involved in service and get out of your own head.
in my honest opinion, if you’re telling people to stay away from a drink a day at a time and keep coming to meetings, you are watering down an already watered down message. And if you are coming to meetings and not working the steps and are happy in your sobriety, you don’t need to be in the meeting! You certainly aren’t suffering with the 3 fold illness I’m suffering from.
What you’re actually doing is creating a social club where you can all come and tell your war stories. That’s fine, just don’t do it in an AA meeting, do it in your own time. Because what you’re actually doing is giving people the wrong solution to a spiritual disease.
Ben: No one is advocating not working with someone who can show you how to work the steps in a rapid and effective fashion…the myth is about all those co-dependent sponsor/sponsee relationships out there in the rooms of 12 Step recovery. See article: http://bigbooksponsorship.org/articles-alcoholism-addiction-12-step-program-recovery/aa-myths/aa-myths-myth-sponsorship/
Cora forgot to mention the ubiquitous: "Don’t make any major changes in the first year!"
Talk about a year of living hell! I’d drink over that suggestion! Not to mention I’d still be just as mentally sick as I was the day I walked into AA.
Recovered member of AA and CA and wholly grateful to god for making me once again useful to god and my fellows.
Isn’t anybody else tired of being a sponsor? Why do people ask me to sponsor them and then keep on calling but never want to read the Big Book, do service or practice the principles of AA?
Has AA changed?
One of the few I’ve found on the internet that makes sense.
Definitely sober. I do have one small objection: 90 in 90.
I personally consider that the frequency of meetings should match the frequency of drinking. Others say 30 in 30. Many as you are obviously aware, 90 in 90. Now hear me out: If its true that one or more can help another recover in 7 days then how many more over periods of 30, 90 or whatever frequency.
in short its perhaps not frequency but what’s occurring at them…something at least I an going to consider after reading your article.
PS: I’d be interested in the 7 day recovery you mentioned.
if you can send me something on this I’d appreciate it.
Amazing what a bit of fear can do..I think the argument may be if you change the Step 10 wording from "at once" to "later today", what else is your opinion? Just sayin..
No “at once” in step 10. There is a “promptly” however.
Re: Grovewest: The workbook that you can download is from the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous and contains all the instructions for taking the 12 Steps. It’s about 32 pages of instructions. Most of what is in the first 164 pages of the Big Book is commentary on those instructions. As to the fourth and fifth columns in Step Four, if you have read your BB, you can easily see how a fourth (Where were we to blame, we saw our faults and listed them. p 67), and fifth column ( were willing to set matters straight p 67) emerges. You need to put "anal retentive" down as one of your character defects and I will list sarcasm on my Step 10 later today. ;)
This site offers a ’12 step work-book’ and questionnaires. Why on earth would anyone following the steps exactly as described in the BB need a work-book? Just use the BB. Unlike the work-book, in the BB on the grudge list there are no 4th or 5th columns, the fear and sex inventory are just ‘listed’ it doesn’t say where. The wording of the 3rd step prayer is optional, there is no ‘ Moral Inventory Checklist’, step 7 is just the prayer – on and on. This sites talk of sticking to the BB does not match up with the practice it advocates.
Oh God! This site is a life saver – literally!
Brilliant. I have recently very gently given my views on sponsorship and been shouted down – why? I am following the Big Book and Living Sober AA Literature. I totally agree that today’s sponsorship – yes, it maybe helpful in the beginning but seems to have developed into a life sentence…for both parties. That is NOT what the Big Book Advocates…The Big Book advocates ‘freedom’ from many things…not suffocation.
Re Tim’s comment of "The main aim of A.A. is to get the newcomer to one more meeting and really this is all anybody needs".
Meeting makers don’t make it. We Recover by the Steps We take not the meetings we make. AA is full of opinions, I found out the hard way and suffered in and out of AA Meetings for 16 years. The main offenders were folks with double digit sobriety who told me lies based on parroting others opinions. Today I know the truth that the AA Recovery program is located in the Basic Text. I know that the sooner I do the Steps the sooner I will find the solution to all my problems. To put it simply I was an Alcoholic who could not manage my own life and no Human Power ( Meetings ) could relive my Alcoholism, that God could and would if I sought God.
When I first read the last paragraph in Bill Dotson’s story ( Alcoholic Number 3 ) I thought to myself "ah that’s nice but not for me". Today I realize too, that I came to AA to try to get sober but I too found a loving God and it is about the most wonderful that can happen to a man.
The AA message, the real AA message is in the 12th Step. It is about waking up to this loving source that removes the obsession (The main part of the illness) This happens by doing all 12 steps. It guarantees Permanent recovery too!
The main problem in AA today is poor and in effective Sponsorship and watered down A.A. (http://www.bigbooksponsorship.org/index.cfm?Fuseaction=ArticleDisplay&ArticleID=444&SectionID=131) Gresham’s Law by Tom P. Jr. explains this well. So at the end of the day it is up to us, the Recovered members in the fellowship to rise above the tide of weak contemporary AA and start telling the truth ( Rigorous Honesty) about Where the AA Program is located and How to get to the Solution ASAP.
I enjoy different points of view, but, to blame anybody else for watering down A.A. is rot. If a newcomer does not get sober, it is our fault not theirs. The main aim of A.A. is to get the newcomer to one more meeting and really this is all anybody needs.
Kudos, Cora!
After 18 years and thousands of meetings
it is still interesting to study the myths and miracles of AA.
With the opinionized BS that is the norm rather then the exception it is no wonder the attrition is so great.
AA, practiced as it is laid out in the BB still works for me and countless others.
Take care.
Good points made Cora, except on Sponsorship. The sponsors role is vital for permanent recovery. It is called working with others. The sponsors duty is to show the suffering alcoholic precisely how to recover by following the clear cut directions in the basic text .See forwards both 1 and 2 also page 89 etc. Bill also mentions it in the 12×12. I think your ego got in the way in your last sentences with the judgments you made regarding people’s spiritual integrity too. I am a big book student and the men I sponsor are strongly advised to sponsor and search out suffering alcoholics as per BB. We go through the steps rapidly as they were designed. The problem with contemporary AA today is poor and ineffective sponsorship. I keep my ego out of it by just keeping it simple and following the recipe in the book. Keep up the good work and the passion, I love it! But on this I agree to disagree.
Trevor Field — Australia
Do continue, Cora…to share your research / insights.
This "third-party expertise" helps: as a reference to quote for any spouting the untruth; as confirmation of my own experience.
Appreciatively,
I must confess I was absolutely shocked to see such a great article, "AA Myths", printed in the "Better Times" publication! Who says AA is dying with a watered-down message of "meeting makers make it".
Hats off to Cora G. for having the courage to point out the myths of the diluted AA rhetoric we hear so much of in the AA rooms today.
I sure she took some criticism from many in the fellowship, particularly from those who practice a weak program of "Don’t drink and go to meetings, get a sponsor and join a home group". This approach, by the way, was given to us courtesy of the Treatment centre industry which has inundated our fellowship with "hard-drinkers", that is non-alcoholic types, along with a proliferation of recovery rhetoric from a professional class of therapists, counselors, and treatment center personnel.
Thank God for Big Book Sponsorship. Here we can find the original, undiluted recovery recipe that the original 100 forged to help "real" alcoholics recover from a seamingly hopeless state of mind and body.
AA Myths – A Rebuttal by
Tom S. Toronto Intergroup, CPC committee
Published in the August 2008 BETTER TIMES, a monthly newsletter for AA Members in The Greater Toronto Area.
It’s a long time since I have had such a good laugh as when I read the article "Myths in AA". (July 2008)
For those who find it hard to attend meetings, the author says she "has witnessed hundreds of members recover in 7 days or less by taking the Steps. Many have never gone to a single AA meeting…" I mean, who needs meetings? As far as getting a sponsor, the author has "seen many recover (there’s that word ‘many" again). How many is "many’? 5, 500? And none of them ever had a sponsor." (Quotes from the article)
To say that "Sponsorship as it is practiced today creates a human dependence" is vague, though possibly as true, as saying that sex as it is practiced today creates cases of venereal disease.
Why bother joining a group? Just because the Traditions, Concepts and General Service structure are predicated on the group doesn’t take away from the fact that "a group is not a Fellowship." Since, "A true Fellowship does not care for chips/medallions…" I suppose those poor dupes who have received chips or medallions can consider themselves seriously deluded.
So much for joining a group.
However, here’s some good news! For those like the hundreds of members, though without a group or sponsor, who have been witnessed by the author to recover in 7 days or less, they can start dating, as it says in the Big Book," Once a man has recovered, he can come and go as he pleases as long as his motives are good". The myth about "Don’t work with others until you have 5 years or more." Being described as "Nonsense" seems self-evident. Is there anybody in AA who can name 3, or even 1 person who seriously believes and would admit to cautioning newcomers to wait until they have 5 years or more, before they work with others? It doesn’t say 5 years of what.