Published in the July 2008 BETTER TIMES, a monthly newsletter for AA Members in The Greater Toronto Area.
Myth 1: 90 meetings in 90 days. Not in our Big Book. Therefore not something the founders of our program suggested as part of the program of recovery. It may help some people but it is misleading, in that it suggests this action will help a still-suffering alcoholic recover and takes the focus off the 12 Steps. I have witnessed hundreds of members recover in 7 days or less by taking the Steps. Many have never gone to a single AA meeting, let alone 90.
Myth 2: Get a Sponsor. I have seen many recover by following the suggestions in the Big Book and none of them ever had a sponsor. Sponsorship as it is practiced today creates a human dependence, which is entirely opposed to creating a dependence on a God of our own understanding.
Myth 3: Join a Group. A group is not a Fellowship. A Fellowship venerates, cherishes and honours the newcomer. It does not celebrate those who have already achieved sobriety. A true Fellowship does not care for chips/medallions to honour recovery.
Myth 4: Don’t date in the 1st year of recovery. What nonsense! This is not a suggestion in our Big Book; in fact, it says the opposite. “Once a man has recovered, he can come and go as he pleases as long as his motives are good”. This myth has found its way into AA via treatment centres. Not part of the program.
Myth 5: Don’t work with others until you have 5 years or more. Nonsense. The Big Book says “unless a man enlarges his spiritual life through self-sacrifice and constructive work for another alcoholic, he cannot survive the trials ahead. If he does not do this work, he will surely drink again.” The Big Book tells us to work with others RIGHT AWAY.
…There are MANY MORE MYTHS I CAN SHARE with you if you have an open-mind and don’t mind the truth, as opposed to most of the myths I read in the Better Times. Perhaps the name should be changed to “Better Myths” or maybe “Deceitful Times.” If you read this, have even 1 ounce of integrity left in your soul, I challenge you to publish a further article about all the myths I have found that are not intended to be in our program. However, if you have no integrity left in your soul, then I welcome you to go to 90 meetings in 90 days and try to find some.
All the best — Cora G.